Yesterday a college kid stopped and asked me a question. 
Although I only met him once before, somehow he felt free enough to ask…
I got asked to be the college chaplain next Fall, but I’m already an R.A. Do you think I should do both?
Tough question.
This is the kid’s future.
My advice could really mess him up or help him.
So, what should I say?
This kid was caught in a classic scenario, one that hits us all right between the eyes on a very frequent basis.
He struggled with confidence over a decision about his future.
The reason why he struggled?
He’s unclear about what he wants in life.
I have a little phrase I often tell people.
Until you spend the difficult time discovering what you should say YES to, you’ll never know what you should say NO to.
I helped steer this young man into the right decision simply by asking him some specific questions.
I asked him what he felt God calling him to be beyond college?
I asked him if he was dating anyone?
If he wanted to get married?
What he saw himself doing full-time 5 or 10 years from now.
I asked him to map out his Dream State.
As I explained a process, a process that will take him a few weeks to do, suddenly he felt energized. (Thanks Chet Scott and Built to Lead)
I told him not to think short term, next year.
I challenged him to think about next year as a step in the process of who he ultimately wants to become.
Then I asked him if his decision about chaplain or RA will move him toward that or away from it.
Until we get a clear handle on who we want to become long-term we have no confidence on what decions we should make short-term.
So my questions to you are:
- Do you have confidence?
- Do you know who you are called to become?
- Do you have your Dream State mapped out?
If the answer is no then face the facts: You’re Just Drifting.
You’re letting others tell you who you’re supposed to be.
And I’d like to ask: how’s that working for you?
Jesus’ knew his course. Do you know yours?
If not, let me know and maybe I can help.
