The secret to a successful marriage

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Wednesday I celebrate 9 years with my wonderful wife Kelly.

I’d be a mess of a man without her love, support, honesty, and balance.

She calls me out and is one of the boldest truth tellers in my life.

I don’t talk about her or the kids much on this blog.

That’s intentional.

We like to keep certain parts of our life private.

I know other bloggers tell the world about everything (their sex life, their fights, and what they ate for dinner).

I suppose privacy, especially in ministry, is one of our “secrets” to a successful marriage.

We’re also blessed with sets of parents who model what it means to love well.

I believe the main secret though is our relationship with Jesus.

Let’s face it.

Marriage is tough.

Super tough.

Jesus shows us what it means to forgive, love unconditionally, self-sacrifice, laugh, not demand to be right, and believe the best about each other.

Love is a choice.

A successful marriage is a conglomeration of these choices.

Happy Anniversary Kelly!

kelly

11 thoughts on “The secret to a successful marriage”

While my father often uses himself and frequently uses his children in sermon illustrations, his only mentions of my mother have been complimentary!

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Kary Oberbrunner on October 15, 2009 at 7:32 am said:

Your father is a wise dude.

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When couples we know are getting married, my husband and I tell them that if they’ve been told that marriage is 50/50, they’ve been told wrong – that marriage is 100/100 all the time. We can never give half of ourselves and come out with a healthy relationship. No meeting halfway, because some days I need him to come further and days he needs me to come all the way.

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